What do you love about him/her?

Each and every one of us has our own opinion about love. It's a big word with a simple definition but has been interpreted by every individual differently. For some of us, love is being there for someone always; for others, love is about posting non-stop pictures together to show off to the world. 

But what's your definition of love?

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Let's talk about the love that's related to relationships. How would you define your love or what do you expect out of your partner?

I've met all kinds of people who tell me different things  and I realize, that we sometimes expect a lot out of another person. Particularly those whom I feel, have not really experienced love maybe.

I am pretty sure you have seen cases of these online postings whereby they go,

"He has to have a house, a car, and a proper job."
"She must have long hair and white skin."
"He has to have like, 8 pacs or something. A good-looking face."
"She has to listen to everything I say. I don't like if she fights."
"He has to have a degree in something."
"She has to have a thigh gap, and must be a virgin."

Some of them.. should really should take a good look at themselves in the mirror. I am not saying that we should not aim, but we should reflect on ourselves as well. Having a partner does not mean that you don't have to work on yourself. You don't find someone to make-up for your lack of confidence or lack of achievements.

I personally think that these are wrong things to look at when it comes to love. At least, these can't be your priorities. The aspect that you should be looking at, is his or her personality. (I am very confused about using him/her because of gender issues haha 'SHER'? anyway..)

I get that some of us want to feel security. I mean who doesn't? The economy is crap these days and we have been a developing country for plenty of years. Are we getting out of this sinkhole anytime soon? Probably not. So yeah, you're allowed to be "materialistic" in a certain sense.

However, be realistic as well. Not everyone can be a millionaire and not every succeeds in life right away. Judge the personality first before you judge someone's achievements. And if you really love someone, you'd encourage them to do what you think is good for them, not for you.

As for some of the other requirements about looks. Not all of us are K-pop stars lah guys. Slap yourself please. Do you think you look like G-Dragon or Park Bo Gum? No right? Then why you expecting girls to look like Lee Sung Kyung or something? (For those of you who don't know her, shame on you. English woman I like: Emma Watson)

We all have our dark pasts and so on. So accept lah the whole package. You can't just look someone for their physical looks can you? It's so.. superficial. Look beyond and you might realize that you've actually found a diamond in the rough.

So people, have your own definition of love, but be realistic about things. Aim for someone that fits your bill in certain aspects but don't expect them to tick every box.

Love is more of accepting the person as who they are rather than who they should be. 

xoxo
Tasha G Lim